The ABC's of Change

What if the true key to personal growth is not chasing change but embracing consistency during life's unpredictable twists? Celebrating the journey we share with you, our valued listeners, we discuss the importance of remaining steadfast in delivering content that resonates, even when personal storms loom large. As we navigate the winter's pause, we explore how this season of rest and reflection can align with the freshness and resolutions of spring.

From dealing with emotional energies to advocating transparency and love, we share insights into building deeper connections and striving for incremental improvements. We're taking a short break, but we invite your thoughts and questions, eager to weave them into our upcoming discussions on accountability, leadership, and healing. Until then, we send our love and positivity your way, and we are excited to reunite in the next episode.

Transcript

Embracing Change

Speaker 1 0:00

We got to take a second to thank the hostess with the mostest, or the host LaShawn, because if it wasn't for her, this episode would not be airing. Because I damn sure it was like yo, I'm gonna just wait until 2025 and drop these other episodes on them. And she was like nah, that it not the wave not the wave, call me out, call me out. So we're gonna give her a big thank you for this episode titled changes.

Speaker 2 0:39

Season three, episode five welcome back and thank you so much for the, for the shout out, for the kudos. For sure, I am super, super, super intentional. I know we may have said in episode one or two, but I know, stepping into season three, I was highly intentional about being committed, committed to being consistent with you and us being consistent with this podcast, because apparently the people say we got something to say hey, we've been getting fan mail dms from y'all and we really appreciate it.

Speaker 1 1:36

I know I do too. But let me back up real quick before I say I appreciate it. How can I appreciate it for real if I wasn't willing to do an episode for y'all after you just said, yo, what y'all doing, we rocking with it, keep going, it's giving me this, it's giving me that. You know, you've helped me out with this, you helped me out with that. And then for me to turn around and put myself at the forefront and say, yeah, I'm cool on the episode, like we just go, you know, get everybody to listen to the ones that we just put out. And that's not leadership, because a leader is always going to think about the collective first. You know, the collective first you know. And so I'm like, do I really appreciate the small amount of impact that we've had so far when I say that, or am I just saying it just to say it?

Speaker 1 2:37

I think that's something for you to ask yourself and answer it yeah, well, I'm just saying that because this is the type of introspection that I do Not on the daily, but you know.

Speaker 2 2:49

Yeah.

Speaker 1 2:49

I'm just doing it out loud For others to hear it and be like dang. You know what that do? Make sense, because then it allows them to do the same thing, to turn that mirror so they can face themselves. You know what I'm saying? Right, because if we do this for the people and then I say, nah, like I ain't really up for it, the people don't care about that you gotta do it, even when you don't want to even when you don't want to, even if you're feeling sick.

Speaker 1 3:18

If you have something for them and they need that, you to give it to them now, if you hacking, you know and coughing and your fever is different, you know.

Speaker 2 3:29

So yeah, if there's things going on where one or both of us are not literally, physically able to to to do it, then okay, um I feel like there's strategy too but we can work it out yeah, we can work it out before it's not we. Do you remember the episode?

Speaker 1 3:50

I do in season one one or two it was season one and it was the last episode of season one going into season two yes, it was season two.

Speaker 2 4:05

Yes, it was season. I believe it was season one going into season two and we didn't know it yeah and we both were sitting there with kovat not at yovit, the yo, the Yo-Vit, yeah.

Speaker 1 4:24

And because that's what led us into doing it together. Because, remember, before I started out with just me, Right. And then that episode got the most downloads on all the episodes, which then we was like, okay, we can do this together.

Speaker 2 4:40

Right.

Speaker 1 4:41

Which led us to this point, right here.

Speaker 2 4:43

Yep, and guess what? We still did it and we're here now.

Speaker 1 4:47

So, yo, I thank you for calling me out on my shit, because this is bigger than me, it's bigger than you and it is for reasons unknown at this point. Maybe we got a, an idea, but I think it'll all make sense next year sometime in q2. The real amount of impact that we've had so far, even with the, with the other episodes. But just seeing it in hindsight, week after week after week after week, just putting it in, staying consistent, seeing the community being built right, um, the magnetism and all that you know, just everything just gelling together the way it's supposed to.

Speaker 1 5:36

I think we'll see what we're really building around that time yeah, you know I agree, but let's do a formal welcome.

Speaker 2 5:46

Welcome to the Can I Talk my Shift podcast. Your hosts LaShawn G Walker and Samuel Walker INS.

Speaker 1 5:58

PO.

Speaker 2 5:59

Yeah, we want to welcome you to the number one podcast for wellness personal accountability and leadership in life after loss. Yeah, buddy, we welcome you to this episode changes, shorter version of our typical episodes, simply because right now, we are literally sitting in the midst of big change. If we if you haven't been following us on Instagram, you might not know, but we just made a big, huge move from Atlanta, georgia to don't tell him that, just let him.

Speaker 1 6:50

Let him, it's gonna be a surprise, it's all yes keep following stuff away, man, like no, you can't do that keep following, then you keep following us.

Speaker 2 6:59

Who knows?

Speaker 1 7:00

is supposed to know and who don't know.

Speaker 2 7:02

We'll find out soon well, we made a big move, that's for sure. If you follow us, you you've seen the boxes and boxes and boxes and the u-haul and the u-haul and everything else in between right.

Speaker 2 7:21

So you, if you have ever done a move, you, it requires a lot of your attention, a lot of your effort, and we literally were doing it all. Well, no, samuel was literally doing it all. I was on Saqqara duty and he definitely took care of the family and packed us all up lovingly and we made our way. And so I wanted to be sure that we had an episode where we acknowledged, like, in the midst of it all, in the midst of change, you can keep going. You can keep up being consistent. It might look a little different, but it's not impossible. And for anybody else out there experiencing, in the midst of just completed some about the going to some changes, I want to make it known in this episode that you know, to make it known in this episode that you know, if you're, if you're, looking at your situation, just know the change is there for a reason and even if you might not know what it is, one thing is for sure is that there's better days upon you.

Speaker 1 8:49

How bad you want it, there's better days upon you, how bad you want it. How bad do you want it, how bad do you want it, like if you already know for a fact that the way that things are will not get you the results that you want, for whatever it is that you want, and you know that there's a change that needs to happen. And then you go about and create the change, but you see that you got to take it in steps, you got to keep doing it over and over and over again. Why would you stop before you see the result? Because, because it ain't come yet.

Speaker 2 9:34

Yep, that's one reason. That's one reason.

Speaker 1 9:37

But does it really make sense when you really like, break it down like that so you on your way right, we on our way to a destination, and we forgot something in the previous location. It's like do I really need that? Do I go all the way back to grab it and then I get back to where I started and I'm like dang that jank, a lot further than I was already on my way.

Speaker 1 10:07

You know what I'm saying. I was already on my way there, but I decided to go all the way back home. And now I gotta. I'm looking at it and it seems further than what it was before but is it worth it?

Speaker 1 10:21

all I'm saying is yo changes like how you called me out, that really woke me up to say yo change, man, the humility it takes to be someone to put themselves at the forefront of something that they may question themselves but also other people may question too. It takes courage, but it also takes consistency more than anything else. You just stay consistent, even on them days that you kind of doubt it. You're going to come out Not unscathed, but you're going to come out better for it and you're going to see the results Right.

Speaker 2 11:16

I mean, you say it all the time and you know we people in general tend to those who tend to offer counsel, wise words, encouragement, support. You know a lot of people who receive it are very grateful for it and they get it, and you know they get the light bulb moments. But a lot of times we don't follow that same wise counsel, that same advice, encouragement, support, and you know, this was just kind of one of those times. You know where I looked at it and it's like man, we say all the time, in order to have something you've never had, you got to do something you've never done. And I'm only going to speak for myself in this situation.

Speaker 2 12:02

There's a lot of things that I know for a fact. I have stopped, I've started and stopped, and I, I am, I thrive off completion. I thrive, I have completed. Before I've been in, I've been in phases and eras throughout my life where I've completed, I've done, I've done everything it takes to get to that finish line of said thing. But I've also started a lot and stopped, not knowing what the end result could be, or even a progressed result could be, and going into another calendar year again. Like I said at the beginning of this episode.

Speaker 2 12:55

I am committed to being so intentional about staying committed to this, because I know the value that people are gaining from it. I know that we have what it takes, we have the grit. We have what it takes, we have the grit, we have the drive, and it doesn't make sense to not utilize that. So if we're going to do something we've never done or we haven't done in a while, you know what's the point of doing this podcast at all. You know, I've never done consecutive, consecutive, consecutive podcasts. I've done lives on Instagram in previous years and I was very consistent with that. But I stopped, not knowing what the end would look like because because I stopped. So this, it's like let's try something different. You know we're tired, we have been on it, you have been on it all week, I have been on it all week plus, and it did look good to say say, you know what we we can just, let's just relax, let's just get some rest. And then I said no, it's not what's worth, it is not stopping when we feel tired.

Speaker 2 14:35

Flat out.

Speaker 1 14:36

And it feels good when you can look at it when you're done and be like yeah, like I still stuck with it, I stuck with it, I stuck with it, that's it. You know you ain't looking for no pat on the back from nobody else outside of yourself. You just know for yourself. I kept my word.

Speaker 2 14:59

Right.

Speaker 1 14:59

I kept my word. No better feeling. There's no better feeling than that. Yeah, you know what I'm saying Because I think about it. I'm like four years ago kept my word, Still here, Sober.

Speaker 2 15:17

Right.

Speaker 1 15:18

Having once picked up a blackamal, a joint or a drink.

Speaker 2 15:25

Right Going on five years. It's been over four and a half years now years.

Speaker 1 15:34

You like it's been over four and a half years now and I look at that and I say to myself like at one point I could never see myself living life without those things. Yeah, now I'm looking at my life like how did I ever do it? Two totally different perspectives.

Maintaining Consistency Through Change

Speaker 2 15:49

You know I'm saying so yeah, in the middle of change, stick with the change, don't go back if you're committed, change is going to happen and if you're committed, the change is going to be worth it. And you know, that's really what I would like to drive home to those who are listening. We're always in change, right, it's. The only constant is change, and I think we live in a life now that is so, so, fast paced. Everything right now, everything let's, it's right at your fingertips and we forget that. One simple, but we don't. We make it hard. Element of consistency and change is what Is what drives us to our best work, our best self, our best relationships is being consistent in the midst of change. So anybody out there in the midst of it, about to be changing in something or just coming out of of a big change, just know is it's worth it to keep going? It is, it was worth it to keep going.

Speaker 1 17:20

It will be worth it to keep going so, yeah, yeah, in the midst of you getting together your ideas for your New Year's resolutions and all of those things, make sure that you put consistency at the top of that list for whatever it is that you're trying to accomplish, because that's the only way right that you're going to be able to get the results that you want, and it takes time.

Speaker 2 17:50

Yeah.

Speaker 1 17:51

Everything takes time to grow.

Speaker 2 17:53

Even if that consistency is rest.

Speaker 1 17:55

Yeah, for sure.

Speaker 2 17:57

Right, like you can, you can have a consistent schedule of rest where you insert it in in a space where it makes sense for you, it works for you and it's good for you.

Speaker 2 18:15

It doesn't have to be good for anybody else because, like we said, even though we are in the midst of change, we decided to take a pause, realize what matters in this moment, which is the consistency of our podcast, and understanding that in the midst of this change, there's going to be some rest required. So you know, just pref, you know prefacing all of this and saying you know is out of school, off, work and enjoying family time and the holiday season for those who celebrate the different holidays. We acknowledge that. We acknowledge that you know you may turn on a podcast. You may not. You may be spending that time and enjoying that time with your family. So we're gonna take a rest going into 2025, but we wanted to make sure that we came in and you know again, let you know what's going on with us. It's kind of a, it's kind of a right net for, right now, a vlog without the video.

Speaker 1 19:36

We're acknowledging that we in the dead season yeah. So the dead season means the winter, right, because if you follow us and you know the things that we've learned and that we'll continue to talk about and bring you up to speed on, but the new year for us is in spring. That's when springtime, or that's when our new year officially starts, the first day of spring, not the first day of winter, right, the first day of winter or the first day of the new year, right?

Speaker 1 20:08

so, being in the dead season, when there is no plant life because it is so cold and frigid where we are, we're still planting seeds, and so, by that, our, our way of resolute resolution is a little bit different in the timeliness than what you're probably used to.

Speaker 1 20:31

But the reason why we're doing this one is so we can continue to plant the seeds, right so that way, when it is time in the springtime to reap the harvest, to reap what you sow you know I'm saying you get what's coming in the best way possible. Absolutely, you feel me, and so, um, but for those who decide to do the New Year's resolution and do the ball drop and you got the holidays rocking off and you got your turkeys and your cookies and your Santa Claus stuff and all that I mean more power to you to do that. I follow another suit and another way of life and another way that is cyclical and better meant for, or it is better for, my family, and either way it goes. As long as you embrace those changes, for whatever is to come, hey, I salute you period.

Speaker 2 21:31

Period oh yeah.

Speaker 1 21:33

Period. So, yeah, we will have a little brief. I guess, I don't know, you want to take a break or something.

Speaker 2 21:41

No, we just we're acknowledging that during this particular time of the year that you know, people are resting, people are taking time off of work, off of school, they're in their winter break. Ironically, yesterday was the first day of the winter solstice. So, you know, we are going to take a pause as well and we will come back still in season three, but we're just going to take a pause while everyone is resting and rejuvenating and getting ready for 2025, and we'll come back to you all in the beginning of the year, probably around this first full week of January. We got some dope dope topics coming up for you dope episodes but we also want to let you know to go ahead and send us a DM. You know, while you're resting, you listen to this episode. You know, before you put that phone down, close your laptop until 2025.

Speaker 2 22:58

Go ahead and DM us at Can I Talk my Shift? And let us know what you want to talk about. What do you want to hear of here? What is on your mind that you've been chewing on, that you have been looking for some resolution that you think we can help you with in the realm of personal accountability, in the realm of leadership, in the realm of being victorious in life after loss. Let us know what is on your mind, and maybe your question, your concern, your thought might be a topic. In the new year we're always looking for topics, things that that you guys want to hear about, that maybe you've had on your mind and just didn't want to say or couldn't say your mind and just didn't want to say or couldn't say.

Speaker 1 23:54

That's a fact. You can also go to CannotTalkMyShiftcom, scroll down to the bottom of the website and click where it says send us a text. We want to hear from you and you can send us a message that way as well.

Speaker 2 24:05

Yeah.

Speaker 1 24:06

You can contribute to the podcast if you want with donations, and you can also email us at info at CannotTalkMySh shiftcom, because we are official. Yes, you feel me, this is the llc for real oh real no, you know.

Speaker 1 24:22

I mean yeah also. Holla at lashawn at the lg underscore on instagram, holla at your boy, sam walker Inspo on IG. And you can see the podcast on YouTube as well. This season doesn't have any visuals yet, but we'll bring that back soon. We wanted to really just focus on being consistent with the audio first, and then, when we incorporate the interviews, it's going to be cracking.

Speaker 2 24:51

Oh yeah, oh yeah, again in the midst of change. You know, we, we want to make sure that when we come back correct, we, when we come back, we come back correct.

Speaker 1 25:01

so we show up, y'all show up for us.

Speaker 2 25:05

It's reciprocal you know and who wants to see us in the middle of all these boxes?

Speaker 1 25:10

I mean I mean I don't know. You know it might not have been a bad idea, but I just know us yeah coming off that road, hitting the storage unit, hitting all of these different things. It was just like man, this is a lot, but you were right, it's not enough to break your consistency right and I hear when you saying, like yo, we gonna take a break and all that. Maybe we just still stay consistent because and do another episode after this one don't know we'll see, only because it's like it's not that season for us, right, that's that is.

Speaker 1 25:50

You know, majority of people, everybody, right, right, you know what I'm saying, right, and that's just something for you and I to talk about. I'm not against this just being an informative episode and y'all out there being like oh man, so they ain't going to be here to the new year because the momentum is strong.

Speaker 2 26:10

Right. Oh, we're still going to be working. Now feel the momentum, we're still gonna be working. I'm just. I want to acknowledge our listeners who, you know, may want to catch up with some previous episodes. This is a great. Who may want to catch up with previous seasons?

Speaker 1 26:27

do that yo. Um failure is not a person. I have seen that episode going crazy and I think that was my the first one that I did solo. Yeah, that episode is is. It actually has the most downloads right out of all the episodes that we done hey, well see, you got something that you can go back to that.

Speaker 2 26:51

you can go back to that, you can reflect on that. You know that that just sounds good to your ears. It just sounds good to your ears. So, like I said, just being considerate of our listeners, who you know are in their rest period, we give them an opportunity to catch up, to be present with their families and that way they, you know they don't have to feel like they're missing out on on our episodes. We'll be back, We'll definitely, um, we're going to still be working, we're still going to be gonna be doing our thing, um, and I want to honor us with where we are in this season so that we can, you know, recollect ourselves, get completely settled where we are um for this season and, you know, come back fresh, fresh, fresh to death and ready and rejuvenated. Um, baby girl is asleep right now, but you know she'll even be a little bit older and and be able to to hold her own when you hear her in the background. So that's all, that's all I was.

Speaker 1 28:11

I was saying like we're gonna take a pause for it, take a pause for the cause. I feel it. Well. Before we get out of here, I wanted to acknowledge anyone who is dealing with heavy emotion during the holidays. This can be a great time to be with family and friends and be festive, and this can also be a very heavy, heavy, energetic time for those who are dealing with the loss of loved ones, who are still holding on to grief or in different stages of grief, who haven't quite dealt with acceptance of losing something or someone.

Speaker 1 28:52

Acceptance of losing something or someone right, or a loss of self identity in the middle of change, right All these things. I want to salute you if you are spearheading that in your life and you want to become more vocal about it. If you're looking to deepen relationships with family members and friends by becoming more vulnerable, this is a great time to do it. Although it may feel scary, fear is not real. And what's on the other side of taking that leap and being vulnerable and having the conversation that's necessary with another family member, with a friend? You never know if you don't do it, but it's better to say that you tried it versus wondering what would happen if you ever did man, so that again yo, I salute you.

Speaker 1 29:44

I salute you if that's where you at, if you thinking, if you at that crossroads and you're not doing it and these words fall upon your ears, yo, go for it, go for it, go for it, go for it. And if it's time to let someone or something go, go for it yeah you know like this is that time where we can't play around no more. We're not getting no younger.

Speaker 1 30:10

Our dreams aren't getting any younger, right facts um and abundance is for you, but you have to be willing to let go of things that stifle it and that make you feel, uh, like you are, you know, deficient, that you are working from a place where you are repelling things. You know what I'm saying. So changes, changes. Let this be the key to unlock the door that you can walk through with a smile and say you know what. It is time Especially us dudes let's become a little bit more vulnerable.

Speaker 2 30:50

Little by little Women.

Speaker 1 30:52

let's become a little bit more transparent, little by little women. Let's become a little bit more transparent. Right, Not honest, but transparent. There is a difference, you know that can be another episode relation and and all of these couples out here. Let's become more transparent.

Healing Energy and Emotional Bond

Speaker 1 31:07

Yes, we have to be honest first, but then we need to be transparent, you know honestly honestly is like, hey, yeah, I was feeling like this when you did that and it made me feel like this not being passive, aggressive, but being direct Transparency is someone calling you out on something and then you being transparent about it, with the details and not omitting all right same thing. If you're going through, like I said, with your emotions, your feelings, all these things, now is the time right because the energy is so heavy.

Speaker 1 31:47

The only way to counteract that is with truth and transparency and honesty coming from a place of love, so that the intent is to build a deeper bond with whoever you're dealing with, right?

Speaker 2 32:00

I'll leave y'all with that man, we love you, we appreciate you. We send you all of our good energy to carry you on when you need it. You just need to feel one it. You just need to feel 1% better. You just need to do 1% better. You just need to be 1% better. We send you good energy in this season. We appreciate you and we will see you in the next episode.

Speaker 1 32:30

For sure, can I tell my shift the pod.